I know. I don't understand the diagnosis of OCD or PTSD either as far as my husband. I know he is not a hand-washer and is certainly not neat. As far as the things growing up, I think a lot of people got spankings.

I lean more toward adult ADHD myself, but I am no therapist. The doctor seeing him now is actually an MD, but does psychiatry. The other guy was just a licensed counsellor.

He has just about all the symptoms of adult ADHD and I believe had ADHD as a child is the reasons he received so many spankings. As my child had the ADHD, when they gave me the literature for him it also listed the adult ADHD criteria and he would seem to have this more than either one of the above.

He had always told me that he had gotten spankings, but he never seemed traumatized by his growing up and has always really bragged on his family until this time in his life and now is living with his parents, so if they were so bad and they are "triggers" and he is trying to get over the PTSD, why would he live with them.

I think if they put him on some Adderall like my son is on, he would probably be a lot better off, of course, the diagnosis of ADHD is just where they are starting with him. She said he has features of Aspergers and even mentioned bipolar disorder. This is scary stuff. My husband has the features of bipolar disorder too, so I don't know what is wrong, I just know my "sweet" husband who loved me to a fault and was there for me and always had to "protect" me from everything, has now left me and my child and says his nerves will not let him be around me or my child for very long at a time. This is so hard on my child and I both. He also was in Church and loved God and now he never talks about God and doesn't want you to either and does not go to Church and has turned his back on his faith also it seems. He just keeps talking about going off into the "darkness" and he also mentioned "hearing voices" once to me. That I have heard could indicate schizophrenia.

There are people in his family the family is telling me now have been institutionalized. His family will NOT get involved with his medical/psychological care and I have been shut out, and with the confidentiality clause ( I work as a transcriptionist and know a lot about confidentiality), they cannot and will not talk to me. He listed his parents as the person they could talk to and he told them though if they "push" him in any way he will just quit his job and live under a bridge or just "disappear" and so they will not talk to the doctor.

I wish there was some legal way I could help with his care, but I have been told there is no legal way to do this. He is at least functioning partially right now, but has missed days at work for being "overwrought" as he put it, so I just don't understand this mess and want to help him, but feel so helpless.

I have just had to concentrate on me and my child as I have to work 2 jobs to just make sure our mortgage is paid and we have food on the table etc... He gives me what money he wants to and so, he is responsible for none of the bills. He only gives me money because of our child. He has told me that he will pay none of the bills even though he helped to make them. I am not pushing this for right now, because I believe he is suffering from some type mental illness or at least definitely something is wrong with him and God has really been blessing me and so far I have not missed a mortgage payment, etc.. I have been blessed with a good living and I type from home and so I don't have to put my child with a babysitter, so God knew what he was doing when he opened doors for me in this career. I just thank God that I am able to take care of my child and he has a lot of love and attention from me right now. His Daddy calls him every night during the week, but on the weekend nobody knows where he is or where he goes and he just says he just "drives around", so I really worry about him.