Well since he won't even admit to anyone outside our group of friends that he was even in Nam, I don't think that getting him here to read is even an option, and that in itself troubles me, because I feel that if he would talk to those who have been thru the hell in Nam that he went thru, he might just be able to come to some terms with it.

I know that it won't ever go away, but it's getting thru the day to day living that he needs to get back into. It's difficult for me also to watch him and try to understand something that I've never been thru, and glad that I wasn't, but when it's someone that you love so much, you just want to reach out and attempt to heal them. One day he did say to me, "Heal me Baby", and all I could do was sit with him and tell him that I wished it was possible but that I couldn't do it for him, he had to try to deal with it, with me beside him. It's just all so very sad and depressing.

Thank you for the responses that I did get, it just helps to talk to those who have been thru a trauma to teach me how to deal with it on a day to day basis. Love you all!