DO YOU REALLY WANT TO KNOW IS THE QUESTION?

Not really Anthony! I have never given him the impression that I want to know what went on over there he usually pulls up short when he starts talking to much about Somalia so I think he knows that I dont need to know and dont want to know all the gory details. As you said it can hurt relationships I would be one that would be pretty unsettled if I heard to much and he knows that he has other contacts that he can talk to if he needs to get it off his chest.
We had a good weekend we went to Innisfail and got on ok over the weekend I am glad I talked him into it.
One downer for the weekend I got a $150.00 speeding fine oh well first speeding ticket in 31 years of driving I do have bit of a lead foot so it was bound to happen.
Jen