Ranger, there is not a quick fix to this. A drug to knock you out cold is a great band aid, but the way to get really, really good sleep is to knock the trauma out. All of the symptoms are connected and the root cause is the trauma. If you deal with the trauma, all the nasty symptoms go away. In the meantime, a band aid does work ok, since obviously, we need to get a bit of sleep.

Also, look into the drugs you are taking. I know that some of the drugs I was taking were causing some of the dreams to be more intense. The difference from reliving the trauma itself or watching it third person. I'd rather watch it third person, than relive it.

I don't have much advice but to just experiment with different techniques. I, myself, love trance like sleep music. I like taking hot baths before bed. I used to take melatonin every night before bed. I would read a good, happy novel. I have also used alcohol, and sleep aids (ambien, xanax, benadryl, vicodin, etc.) to make sleep come but I don't recommend doing any of those. (especially in combinations!)

Looking back, I think the only way I got to sleep when my anxiety was high was just pure exhaustion. I'm sorry I don't have much to offer. The only way to truly love getting in bed and look forward to sleeping is kicking the trauma.