Marlene, now your getting it. Well done. Such a little thing is harder than most imagine. Finding our lower emotions is much more difficult than people think, until they meet the challenge. It is easier to isolate emotions once we look deep, to find solutions. End result, no more anger, or much less off, which means less panic attacks, less anxiety, less stress. Apply this to everything in life, and you find it becomes instinctive over time. You can channel anger long enough then to find what is causing it, which near immediately lowers anger as you get better at it. Well done marlene... excellent progress with yourself, and your relationship with your daughter.

Cass... cut the cutting shit out. To stop anxiety, there are other ways from simply applying a bandaid to the situation, being cutting yourself. All your doing is harming yourself, harming those around you who love you. Just look at Marlenes response to her daughter cutting herself for the same reasons... to stop the panic attack. Apply this to your mothers feelings, and bingo, you just found out what she feels in regard to you doing the same thing.

Cutting yourself, your not fixing anything, your applying a bandaid to the moment. Keep that up, you will never get better by hiding behind bandaids. Its a choice, and only you can make it and stick by it. You get a panic attack, you reason with what is causing it, not put a bandaid on the moment, because the moment is just going to continue reappearing time and time again.