Ranger, if you want to step past the male, and military pride I know is holding you back (as I too as a male and veteran have it), lets poke around what is making you angry. Anger is not an emotion, its an emotional response. Finding the problems and emotions within those problems, is the core to the anger. If you want to list what is on your mind, then we can pull those apart a bit, look at how to get you emotionally reasoning with yourself, and this can help a great deal with anger management. Most of anger is caused by frustration, though often other emotions are in there also.

Mate, this may sound like touch feely shit, but it works... it really does. I am not sure how you are with emotions, hence why are say step past male and military pride in being 10ft tall and bullet proof, because this is exactly what I had to do in order to solve my anger problems. When presented with this, I initially thought to myself, "your talking to the wrong person, as I am not about emotions", but I listened and it was actually the solution I had been looking for. This isn't about changing you, this is about a method for you that helps to find the cause of anger.

If you have a look in anger management and read The Iceberg of Emotions and The PTSD Cup Explanation, you will get a better understanding off what is going on within you, why you feel as though your going to blow your stack, and how to solve this issue once and for all.