Thanks for your replies. On advice from the counsellor yesterday I sat with hubby last night and had a heart to heart I said to him I can see he is going ahead with this clinic and I am proud of him. I said that I appreciate that he is showing affection towards me but he needs to be really patient with me as I am still hurting. That was really hard for me to tell him that he had hurt me. We both had tears but Anne ( counsellor) said I had to be honest with him and now is the time to tell him as he is learning on the clinic about different emotions and feelings. Whereas she said I still have a lot of anger there. We got through that ok and I do feel some relief that I told him about the hurt.