Good stuff Jen... well done to you both. Honesty is the best policy... and he already knew how much he had hurt you, he just didn't want to ask. You telling him makes him remember, but also lets him know that it is not him now, but you that must heal this. Both parties really do have a lot of work too do, and often we must step back, truly have a good look at ourselves without friends biased opinions, and see who can be better, and which one's responsibility it is for the most significant part of each feeling, in order to heal correctly. Both sides have their big issues and little issues, both sides must heal together for it too work.