Jen, I know exactly what you mean by having to choose each word carefully and being mindful of your tone & body language. Jeeez! It takes alot of effort & patience.

Anthony, Boy I wish that Terry understood what you just said about pushing just enough!!! He doesn't want to be pushed at all.
He knows that during counseling his symptoms will get worse for a while & he fears that (rightfully so) because he's so symptommatic at present.
He starts EMDR this week & he's kind of freaked out about it. (I did EMDR, & while it was difficult & draining, I didn't freak out about it. But then Terry's demons are far more sinister than mine.) When he comes home on EMDR days, he's gonna be really fragile. On those days I know exactly how patient & gentle to be. It's the rest of the time I find so difficult.