Oh mymy god are we married to the same man - only joking!!!! he was in the army and he got out of his uniform and he was the most kind loving generous man.........he went into the police force and was on shifts so we grew apart...... he jumped back into the war zone in iraq and each time he came home i recognised him less - but I longed for him to "return" he did a few days at a time then he just threw himself into work .


I was saying all the things to him that were frightening me " no soul detatched no compassion lifeless " unless it was about his work the final straw came when he sat in the chair demonistically saying he was going to scour for other women after a skin full of booze. I demanded it was over and couldnt take any more. Our kids have suffered and now I am enjoying their company again. He was never violent only shouting in his sleep . Never ever saying there was anything wrong only that it was me!!!!!! I was on edge and upset but I gave as good as I got - I didnt understand as he wouldnt talk that's what broke my heart!!!!