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Originally Posted by hannah  Oh mymy god are we married to the same man - only joking!!!! he was the most kind loving generous man.........he went into the police force, each time he came home i recognised him less - but I longed for him to "return" he did a few days at a time then he just threw himself into work .
...all the things that were frightening me " no soul detatched no compassion lifeless " unless it was about his work.
the final straw came when he sat in the chair demonistically saying he was going to scour for other women after a skin full of booze. I demanded it was over... Never ever saying there was anything wrong only that it was me!!!!!!
I was...upset...I didnt understand as he wouldnt talk that's what broke my heart!!!! |
Hannah my sister,
Not only are we married to the same man-- we're twins!! I began to recognize him less & less over the yrs. But I became so depressed, I guess he could say that about me, too. I felt but didn't dare say the same things you found frightening. My family excels at denial...I loved him so much I think I just kept hoping it would change. But the detachment & lack of compassion grew worse instead.
What a jerk for saying those things to you!:angry-fla Good for you being strong enough to kick him out-- his self-destructive behavior definitely isn't going to change without intervention (& lots of it!)!!
Re: being upset: Same here, sister! I realize they're fighting the demons in their own heads, but don't they have to come back to Earth for a few minutes now & then?? They're still husbands, fathers...people!
Maybe I'm just venting-- I'm on my own here, can't talk to anybody about this stuff except here.