hello Andrea42
I can understand somewhat what you are going through. I too become upset and/or irritatedwhen my partner won't hold me or show any kind of affection. We are sort of different though as my partner only lasts the maximum of one week at a time. We are also in our 20s so I can understand why you say you feel unattractive, because I too have felt that way many times. All I can say to you is... My partner usually comes around in a few days, and he usually only gets that way around the anniversary of his trauma or anything that has "stuffed up since then" (his words). I have found with my partner that when I go to sleep in different room when he is like that, he usually ends up in there with me because he doesn't like sleeping alone; this happens even if I fall asleep watching tv. I understand how frustrated you are though and just know that you are not alone. He loves you or he wouldn't be there (at least that's what my partner says). I hope you both sort it out soon though.