Tammy, Yes you do understand, thank you. I do get so upset and irritated…I have been dealing with this for so long it seems….In my case also, it usually does last a few days, a week at the most and its mostly because of my bitching, he tells me he needs this time to cool off then after that we kinda go back to normal and he does hug me and show a bit more affection (he tells me he has gotten this PTSD under better control now so we all have our days but for the most part its just the way he behaves and shows me he wants to be with me that is my problem) This time it has just gotten to the point where I cannot even wait a week anymore and I have told him that…i told him to just knock it off already and he told me he wishes he could...i know i shouldnt have said that :(…its been 2 weeks and nothing at all
and I cant seem to shut up about it and its making it worse.
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He loves you or he wouldn't be there (at least that's what my partner says)
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My hubby has told me this many times.... it seems that you and i are going through the same thing at the moment which helps to know that i am not alone.... thank you.
Hannah,
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please hear what he is saying- your crying and upset will make him more detatched as he cant stand to see you in this state
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You are so right!! and he has told me this so many times....i know it does not help him or me or us..but like i have said i feel i am having a breakdown right now:( i am doing all the wrong things out of being desperate..i feel i cannot do this anymore...Like yourself, at the moment i am not very strong....i have tried to back off time and time again :( but i have not yet proven myself.
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Patience is a true virtue - I didnt have it - its easy in hindsight but he is telling you what he wants and will have try to take a step back and keep your worries in your own head. Treat him with respect that is the most difficult thing for you but essential for him
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I understand what you are saying...but im guessing i do not have it either..i dont have the patience, but i do see how important it is to treat him with the respect he deserves and give him the space he needs... i just wish i was stronger...and about keeping my worries in my own head HA! i already failed at that last night :(
got home tired, gave each other a hug....he cooked a great dinner for us..we ate and then i started with the bullcrap because i wanted to cuddle while we watched tv and we probably could have but yeah my mouth gets me in so much trouble lately :(
Well Hannah,
From what you are telling me you have said some hurtful things that have stuck with him... i have yet to read your story (i will do so tonight) but if you read mine....i have put my husband through hell and back just because i was a brat and did not know any better...i got the second chance and i have a feeling that you will also,
i will pray for you guys... but give him time (we separated for about 6months) it takes a lot of time but in the end, when/if you end up together it will be worth it