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Old 09-12-2006, 03:48 PM
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Andrea you have to take care of yourself first. Perhaps a break is what you need, perhaps it isn't. Don't stay for the sake of your hubby, to caretake him, or for the sake of your children (not sure if you have any, but it would be a big mistake to them) only stay if you want to, need to etc..

I realize that living with someone with PTSD is difficult and numerous times the spouses end up like a babysitter. But, he is an adult and so are you. Take care of you first, then him. NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND. Don't let guilt over this illness trap you, or responsiblity or anything else. But if you want to stay, you need to look at what ISN"T working and start trying something different. (why do we, as in all humans, insist on trying something that doesn't work over and over again? just wondering. I do the same thing sometimes.)

Whatever your choice, make sure it is because it is what YOU want and YOU need. Period. Please keep us updated. It's strange how healing on this board works sometimes, isn't it?

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