oh Andrea, that is so what was happening - I like you I suspect was desperate for him to show some behaviour that resembled the "old" man and was convinced it was me he was avoiding was I attractive was I loving was I this and that asked him and myself a thousand questions. All it did was burn me out and chase him away. Although I miss him every second I know this is the right thing for this time. For both of us. He has given me his "house tel No. " and yesterday he called after work to tell me he was taking the present he had bought to his sisters with a card from all of us ..... US I repeated and he confirmed>>>> made my day..... This has happened since I have taken the pressure off and have given him the space he wants - who knows. Another snippett ....guys he has also mentioned that I have suggested he seek some help!!!! not sure in what context he said that but its a start... Andrea get some rest - walk the beach - read a book or sleep for your sake. God Bless you.