As for me filing, I do not feel I should be the one to file for one reason is because of the way I was brought up regarding what is in the Bible regarding this and for another one, I did not want this divorce and should not have to pay for it and I am hoping that he will settle out of court. I know I will still have to obtain a lawyer and all to review what he puts in the papers, but hopefully he will not want to risk going before the judge. He says his lawyer told him it will be handled out of court, so we shall see. The only way it will be handled out of court is if he steps up to the plate though....

Also, I know I am co-dependent I think as I grew up in an alcoholic home and I am learning about coping with all this stuff along with my mama being ill and other things going on in my life. It is just a lot of stuff at once for me and I am dealing with it the best way I know how to do it....

Thanks for your input.

dazed