Hi Kerrie-Ann,
It's good to have my feelings confirmed about why the PVA is finding it difficult to reach out to the younger demographic among the veterans community. Need to go right now, so will continue this tonight.

It took me a long time to begin to get a less dramatic take on the feral days. It always seemed so personal, that I was to blame. The guilt was crushing and then the anger and resentment followed. The first thing I learned, and it's still hard to do at times, was to stop feeling guilty, to stop taking the blame. I'm working very hard on approaching all dramas with less emotion. Success rate....60/40, so I am finally getting somewhere! And we've been married for 32yrs this Oct. As a good friend said to me,'Guilt is the most destructive of all emotions.'

I have a quantifying game I play with feral days. I chart them and with the advantage of the overview, liberally seasoned with the advantage of hindsight, I can see good days definitely outnumber ferals 7/1.

I well remember the career/young mother/housework/feral days scenario so vividly. Our boys are now 31 & 30, I have 2 g'kids and our boys still say they love us. Can't ask for more than that.


Cheers Lima Tango.