Thanks again guys - yes it has been said "he is stringing me along" my own kids see that too.

This separation has given me space i really needed too. I am getting stronger each day but I just cant get my head around the fact this once very calm gentle guy is uncaring and selfish enough to put us through this.

I am taking "firmer" steps as Anthony says "he will either come back or not"

I am going away for a few days with a girlfriend to forget this crap and have a laugh. He needs to make a choice - He even said yesterday "why do I have to make all the decisions" ! Is that a cop out or what - Im sure if I sold up packed up and didnt contact him it would go right over his head!

I know you guys have no magic answers - but at the moment I need to get a little stronger in myself in order to make a decision. Take care and thanks for your thoughts.