Max, I have PTSD. I am happy for her and pained both to see you in your spot. But the days at a time in bed, it is not unusual. She needs that care. It is not always enabling, but if she is not in a better place with it and depressed alcohol is bad and enabling. She sounds depressed. It is hard not to be like this and not have it happen. Promises. Don't hold those too close if she has not been with you in a while. I know not what you may want to hear but the truth. She may just be grasping for what was something she viewed as stable. We can get where we need to find anything steady and stable. That may turn into something again or you may be a stepping stone. I do hope you have your love back, PTSD can chase us away to do this return like she is now also. It is a blind leap of faith on your end to see where it goes and which way. I would say just call and say you hope she is feeling well and if she wants to call you your line is open. Just no pressing questions. For now keep your calls very spaced out so she does not feel the pressure. You seem to be looking for ways to make this work and the only reason I am piping in here. To give you the PTSD point. Good luck, it is a long road, and there is improvement, but it does not end.