Ohmigod....you girls could be me writing...everything you are saying is exactly what I have/am going through with W. I am so glad....and also so sad that there are others out there...not just me on my own. I SO know what you mean about the once loving/caring man turning into an angry/nasty uncaring person......you just think WHAT HAPPENED !! I get SO angry myself...I feel so ripped off. I always envisaged huge family Christmasses when the kids grow up with W playing ames with the grandkids and then coming in to have a beer and laugh with the sons-in-law. All I can see now is a grumpy old man telling the kids to F off and going to hide out on his own somewhere, while we all try to pretend life is happy and normal. I turn 40 this year....is this what I want?