My mother had a partner for several years who was a Vietnam vet, so I can appreciate the situation you must must find yourself in sometimes. He was a sergent in the police force with an unblemished record & medals for bravery, but at home he used to sink into the bottle & deep depressions. I used to be amazed at how different the two sides of him were. At work he was highly respected & no one would have known there was a problem, but at home he would suffer & unfortunately those around him would too.

I wish I could offer some advice on how to deal with it, but we just had to accept him for what he was, because as a person he was a good person. Eventually he left the police force & the city to live in the outback, and he seems like a changed person now & laughs a lot more often, and a lot less drinking. He never used to talk about his tours in Vietnam, but now he will talk about it sometimes. So maybe a change in his environment was the answer? Or maybe the pain has subsided some.