I would suggest writing down your concerns about the counsellor, how you feel and discuss it with her. She may not be aware that you are percieving things that way. Remember she is still human. She can not mind read and unless you are honest with her, she will have no idea there is an issue. I would suggest talking this out with her..

As for you hubby, get a damn tape recorder and record what he is saying and doing.. then later, when all is calm, let him listen to it. Explain to him how these Behaviors and Actions are affecting you and how you feel when he does them. Pick ONE thing to work on at a time. Encourage him to be open and honest about ONE thing you do that affects him adversely and work on it together.

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