Marlene,
WoW! Now that you mentioned it and i have had time to read over all the posts, you are right!! nobody said trust.
Like yourself, i believe if there is no trust in a relationship/marriage you have nothing. My husband and i have been going through trust issues for the last year or so and let me tell you, it is so hard!! I never really thought about it or thought it was a big issue until i had to deal with it. So now that i am going through it, i know that trust is pretty much the #1 thing that makes relationships work