I am sorry I am taking such a break, but, this is going to take long.
Kers, in answer to your questions. She never moved out, I did. I occassionally have to speak with her when she answers the phone, I say hello and sometimes if I feel generous ask how she is doing. When I go home to visit my Mother and other sister I do my damndest to stay away from her. But...she knows better than to say anything even remotely wrong to me, she pretty much stays out or in her room when I am there. I have been back a few times in the past 20 years. So....it doesn't hurt her too bad. However, we met for a vacation in Pagosa Springs 2 years ago, that took work. We were civil.