The following is only my opinion,

I know from the last three years experience, that living with some one with PTSD is not a cake walk. Its more like a rollercoaster ride.
I am blessed with a wife who even though she has this horrid disorder, still has a great deal of love within her.
Slowly she is healing. She is in counceling, on a med and here on this forum.
If she were mean spirited, and pushed me away, I could not have lived with that. I would have had to leave for my children and my own preservation. She, thank God is a blessing to us even though she fights this every day.
Years ago, when I was fighting my own struggles, my therapist gave me some most wise advice. At the time I was in the process of being devorced by my alcoholic wife (#1) I wanted to help her but did'nt know how. Here is what he said to me.
" Wayne, about your helping her, it is like she is in a river drowning. You have three choices.
(1) Jump in the river and try to save her, chancing drowning youself. ( I had already tried that)
(2) Stand on the river bank and wait for her to call for help.
(3) Or turn and walk away.

Well, I had stopped drinking because I saw what it was doing to her. I was not going to do that again.
I stood on the bank as long as I could and then........... I had to just walk away. Just thinking about how hard that was brings tears to my eyes. For my kids and my own sanity, I left.
One has to evaluate your own circumstance. If you are not psyicaly safe you need to get out of there. If your spouse is trying, hang in there. It does get better. My wife Marilyn is so much better than three years ago! She is more caring, and closer to me than before. The first time she crashed it was time for the hospital. Now she is able to deal with her triggers and continue living and loving her family. It has not been easy, but by my standing by her through it all, learning what I could do to empower her we have been able to power through.
But.... You better be ready for the fight of your life! you are fighting ghosts!!!!!!!!!!!!! :fight:
You will need the strength that only comes from a relationship with Jesus if you are to preserve your sanity and marraige.


Wayne