Hi Fred,

Sorry it has taken me a while to reply. You mentioned that your partner was a Vietnam Vet, does he receive ongoing counselling and is he on any medication? They will tell you that they don't need any of those things but they certainly help everyone involved with them. You have taken the right steps to arm yourself with knowledge but Anthonys' suggestion to find some groups of people who are partners of vets is also good way to go. The support you will find from them is unique and in their own way help they to create a better understanding as you soon realise that you are not the only one. Sometimes that alone can help. If you find that a bit daunting you can just keep chatting to me here online. I have been with Anthony now for 4 yrs so I have some understanding of what you are likely to be experiencing.

It is not easy living with these characters. I know people who wish for eventful things to happen in their lives........me, I just wish for peace and quiet with the least amount of stress.

Talk to you soon, take care