You need to get him some help with the addiction. If I understand it is marijuna? There are programs to help with that. It is an escape mechanism. A way to not have to think or deal with problems. Yeah, withdrawls from meds are hell. I just went through Paxil/Trazadone withdrawls with my husband. Was like watching a heroin addict movie. If he gets violent or if you need to get him forced into getting help, call the cops. Marijuana is an illegal substance. Yeah, I know I sound like a cold b*tch, but sometimes you have to push. If you can take a horse to water but not make him drink, then throw him in the pond.

I know where you are. You're a loving supporting wife, and you're just about at the end of your own string.