Hi all... I need advice from people who suffer from PTSD or there partners on something that I can't seem to figure out on my own. In the past few months I have recently became very close friends with a man who has PTSD from sexual abuse as a child. I care very deeply for him and want our relationship to further but not at the cost of his recovery. I am married and having a lot of issues with my husband, that I have sought counseling for. I don't want this man because I feel I can help him, I know only he can do that nor do I want him because I pitty him. I want him because of him. He makes me laugh, I can talk with him honestly about anything and I feel like we have so much in common. He is a gentleman, he has a lot of integrity. However he tends to send mixed signals like he wants a relationship with me but then he turns and pulls away saying he only wants a friendship. I do not understand a lot about the illness, but I have read a few books pertaining to partners of PSTD, so I have a basic understanding of it. It seems to me that his self esteem has been so shattered that he can't believe that I am willing to do this for him. I get a feeling that he wants to share his feelings for me, but is afraid too because he is afraid of getting hurt. He has trusted me with a lot of talk about his childhood abuse and what has led him to this point in life. He definitly knows how I feel. I have made it clear and have actually even told him I would give it all up for him. I really don't know what to do or even what to ask to get him to share his true feelings for me. I really need some advice here... anyone?