Hi Butterfly.

I'm going to be very blunt here. If you care for him deeply, then stay away from him. You are married and are having issues and you want to develop an intimate relationship with a man that has PTSD at the same time? The only thing this is going to do is f'k him up further. That is not care, that is being selfish.

I realize you may not see it that way, nor recognize it, but that is the worst thing you could do. You emotional needs need to be met by you. Being in a marriage and having an emotional affair is only about you and neither your husband nor this man.

As much as this might sound cruel or be painful, you need to cut all contact with this person. Otherwise you are going to create a mess. Sort yourself out first, then build relationships after. Just don't drag others into the middle of your marriage.

I hope you see this as it's meant. Not an attack, but personal experience with how nasty this situation would get.

bec