Thank you all very much for your responses. I guess you were right Andrea when you said I didn’t really give a lot of information just a brief breakdown. I know I made it sound as if I only knew this man for a few months but in fact I have known him for a few years and have recently became close friends with him. (sharing our personal lives, the PTSD etc.)
I totally agree that I need to decide if I want a divorce or a “break” and it should not be based on my friend. In fact, I am leaving my husband based on 23 years of trying to please him and forgetting about what I want out of life. This is one of the things I want to gain from counseling is a better understanding of what I want.
I do know that my friend has a lot of the qualities, aside from his PTSD that I would like to see in any of my future relationships.
I am really going to take your advice and continue to only be a close friend and listen to him and enjoy his company until I get my life in order then maybe down the road who knows…
Thanks again for your help