Witsend,

I have to admit that title always gives me a little bit of smile as I often feel that way, today being one of those days. You will understand if you go to Anthony's last post. He returned from post course 'catch up' worse and nastier than I have seen him in a long while. Even the kids and the cats are avoiding him. He is REALLY p##!@d off!!

Anyhow to your question about the letter, not a bad idea, I don't think to vent your feelings on paper but if you intend writing a letter it is probably better done while you are calm. I say this from personal experience of sending my husband emails when he won't talk, I have even resorted to this tactic when we are in the same house. I always get a much nicer and positive response when I am careful about what I say, even though it is extremely tempting to tell him what an asshole he can be sometimes. I would give it a whirl,although I am not guaranteeing a response of any sort but you may feel better letting her know in a positive light how you feel and as you have identified it is less confronting. At the end of the day, those with PTSD have to accept that it is their responsibility (as it is ours) to function to their best capacity in any relationship. Partners have a right to be heard and have some respect. Anyhow, relationships are not a one way street .........sometimes I would like to hammer that point home to Anthony.

I can't begin to guess Anthony's response to your suggestion but I imagine he will be online tomorrow. He is sleeping now and boy do I hope sleeps some of his Townsville adventure away!! I am sure the rest of the household would agree.