Well... I would write the letter actually and give it to her. I don't know personally whether it is a good idea or not, but in actual fact, when I was really really bad, kerrie-ann used to do exactly that, email me. She knew I would read it, and then I could take it in at my own pace, or just disregard as I did sometimes... even though she was right, and I really didn't respect her thoughts at that stage... so it is really much of a muchness from my side of things.

The face to face was always too much for me, and quite honestly, the letter method was much better for me personally, as I didn't have to deal with the extra personal emotions when I couldn't cope, though again, I read the letters, though often didn't really take much notice of them. (Maybe slip in the same topics, jumbled around every few letters!)

Now one thing that you must always remember, is that I am on the male side of the sufferers, and females are more emotional than males, so you would actually have more chance of her taking some notice with a letter. My advice though, don't feed her too much in one letter, cause if she is really struggling at present, too much will simply get ignored...

Hey, if you don't try, you don't know. Only you would know whether there is a chance or not that she would read it, but I do know from experience, if she is struggling, I would opt for many letters, say one a week, and kept very short, ie. one or two points only, and backup what you say really well, really simple... as PTSD in full flight tends to cloud alot of basic senses, which includes concentration and attention.