The big question with so many relationships is, can it work after the fact!!! When relationships endure the stress of uncontrolled PTSD, both parties are hurt, pushed emotionally, mentally and even physically in every attribute; but can they really work if a sufferer heals within them?
I think they can, but they come with stipulations IMHO, being:
- Physical abuse must not have been encompassed
- Cheating must not have been encompassed
- Both parties must heal together, and honestly heal and forgive the past
I believe that if a sufferer / spouse has cheated, abused physically or refuses to heal the past pain endured, then a relationship just has no chance of longevity, and both parties are fooling themselves. IMHO, if a person heals and any of the above are encompassed, then new relationships must be formed where new and constant selfs are introduced, not such a dramatic change in attitude and personality, and to heal PTSD is a dramatic change, ie. normal self > PTSD uncontrolled > Heal. Even from PTSD > Heal is a dramatic change, being people meet when wild and uncontrolled, then when they heal they realise all the things they were doing where wrong, thus they stablize, they become what they want to be, not what they where doing to avoid the pain, to suppress the emotion.
What do you think?