Both of you are correct. As Anthony said, if the counseling is obtained early on, literally an ounce of prevention is better than a ton of cure. And as Lisa said, if it's forced, it's already a failure. They have to be willing for it to work. Counseling is not like giving drugs. Give someone Prozac and it will do it's thing no matter how willing they are. But if you force the counseling, it's not the hard headedness that men have that builds a wall, but the common sense of "if they are going to force it on me I'll fight it!"

Like food. Let's say you hate cabbage. No matter how good it tastes, will you love it and appreciate it if you are forced to eat it? How would you be forced? Ball and chains? Incarceration? Just like with forced counseling. Unless you have them incarcerated 24-7 for the duration of the forced counseling, thre will be no progression. And when you incarcerate someone for counseling, that's brainwashing and very similar to the re-education camps the NVA had. "We will hold you prisoner until you learn that you agree with us even if you really don't, and even that is not a promise you will be free." What if they resist while incarcerated? Punish them? That only makes their belief that they don't need it even more real to them.