Hello, Candy. Partially I can relate to the family dynamics you described. Only, it was my father who was absent a lot and in his late years died of alcoholism, my mother has symptoms of NPD. My mother either emotionally tortured me or used me as an emotional substitute partner. My sister is 8,5 years younger and I cared for her as a child. She is almost the only relative, I have contacts with. None of my other relatives is worth trusting. In my adolescence, due to very traumatic experiences with people, I isolated myself a lot. I have very few contacts, mostly with my partner.

Best regards, Maja