Welcome Nafe, glad to have you here.

Nafe, I think you need to read what you wrote again mate, as it sounds to me, as though your one pretty tough character yourself, a person who truly loves your fiancee and supports her with a debilitating mental illness, are in hock to your eyeballs, and still hanging in loving her. Well done mate... bloody well done. You are a true person to yourself and your fiancee, and should be damn proud of yourself.

Your fiancee has a point you know, in that money doesn't matter, as it is something that has no life, no real meaning and no purpose. Money is a materialistic item, which is nice, but not necessary to be happy. You love your fiancee, she loves you... it is that easy, really it is. You are yelling at each other when all you want is to love each other. Why bother with the yelling then? One has to stop it, break the chain, and the other will cease because it gets boring being alone in something all the time.

Honestly, I think you both need to get into counselling together, not seperate, but together at first. Ring your community help centers or something like crisis line or the like, and chat with them about the situation, and let them help you both, as that is what they do. Lifeline and relevant organizations are not there just for looks, please use them. Pick up the phone, and give them a call to have a chat with a counsellor about the best approach forward.

This is what you need at this point, before it spirals out of control. We can support you, listen to you, and chat with you, share experiences and so forth, but at this point, you also need professional guidance and counselling to get both yourselves out of the situation your in, and digging yourself further. Neither of you obviously want to seperate one another, so be honest with each other and leave those silly words out of conversations. They are just words, because they have no meaning behind them, only anger and hostility.

Your fiancee has suffered a hard life, and lets face facts, you love her, she loves you, so now you both need to get on with some professional guidance, which is freely available at no cost through those organizations mentioned above. Please, pickup the phone and give them a call to see how they can help you both.

We can help with the PTSD, and support you in regard to supporting your spouse with PTSD, but you also both need to help yourself at the same time. You are obviously doing that, but what about your fiancee? Is she getting professional counselling about her trauma? Is she medicated to help her during these tough times? Does she want to help herself, and get past the worst of PTSD?