Oh Jack, Jack, Jack-----Please quit looking. Don't you know by now that your sole mate is out there and will cross your path when you are ready. Looking only seems to attract loosers, or at least that has been MY experiences. Besides don't think you are the only person in this boat. It has been 15 years for me!! Yes I said 15 years. My therapist decided that I was not the best judge of people and with my problems-and 4 failed marraiges-I didn't need a mate so I have a new theroy of life. When I get the urge for a man in my life I just get ANOTHER cat. To date I have 4 cats ! ! ! But I surly do make a super friend HERC