hi jods
i assume that you are talking about the 14yr old....and assume also that the accident happened in recently...
what about finding out through your doc if there is reading material that you can both sit with and it would be a great opportunity for you both to connect with each other.
.. and maybe come up with suggestions that she could do to help her dad....the littlest thing can be the biggest thing....and would make her feel helpful....what do you think?