Thank You Lisa,

[ Please pardon me, this a long post. Sorry, I didn't know a shorter way to write my response].

It's really reassuring that you feel like I do-that the therapist and her office hadhandled my case badly.

I mostly believe that 1) she, my former T, found out that something was wrong on her side of the situation, or that she thought that she didn't have the needed skills to help me with my issues.

But someone admitting that they don't have what they need to do a job would be an embarassing thing to admit.

So, [I believe], rather than take the hard way for her and admit that she couldn't handle my case and give my case a good conclusion, she decided to take the stance of: You and I can't make this relationship work, and it's Your fault, Rob.

When I was her client I did not do or say anything out of line. But when it didn't look like I was making progress, they decided to shift me and suggest that I had unhealthy romantic views or unhealthy sexual views about my therapist.

Um, I never said I wanted a romance or a physical relationship with my therapist. I also never wanted a romantic relationship with my therapist. I also never wanted a physical relationship with my therapist. I deeply wanted to keep her as a therapist and if I had gotten a romantic or other non-professional relationship with her would cause me to lose my therapist.

I feel that my therapist, or [her and her group of therapists], decided that I wasn't making progress in their view. So they decided to blame me with some romantic or sexual connection which did not exist.

Just my view, hanging a sign on me that says "he's romantically strange" or "he's sexually dangerous" and then using that to stop me from seeing a therapist is very disturbed.

All she had to say was:" I am very skilled in therapy, but I don't have the necessary skills or tools to fix your case-If you don't mind, Please try one of these people as your therapist."

And I would have seen someone else. No Problem. I can go along with arrangements like that.

Regardless, thank you Lisa for believing that i'm an ok person until I prove to you otherwise. That's all I need from people. I also thank you for believing that not all men are: dangerous, violent, sexually violent, Rapists or other wise sexually warped or otherwise warped.

It really makes me feel good to hear that people still believe that a lot of men, and maybe most men, are non-violent and would never do anything to hurt people or emotionally hurt people.

Thank You,

Rob