Hey Rob,

What Claire said! LOL

Additionally, the person who has healed and helped me most has been a man too. He gave me faith in men, as I grew up really quite bitter towards them. Also - it's worth pointing out that despite the stereotype - woman can also be those things you listed. it's not something people immediately think about, but I think it's important that people realise this too. Men sometimes get stigmatised because there are a lot out there who are shits. But hey, nobody wants to be tarred with a brush that doesn't belong to them, all the same.

Another point is... therapists are not always good either. I had the most unethical therapist ever when I was younger. He was the most judgemental person I have ever met. Therapists are people too.... and with that comes good and bad ones, just like good and bad men, and good and bad women (putting it very simply).

It seems that your ex therapist sounds like, as you said, she had no idea how to handle your situation. You are better off without her, and better off using someone who can really help you. If she wasn't for you, then she was never going to help you - and perhaps you would have wasted much more time with her, and ended up in a worse state. It's important for therapists to recognise their limits and specialities. And to deal with that appropriately. If she couldn't even do that - she was never going to help you.

Good luck with the new one.

Lisa.