Firstly, it was really a horrible and a very big mistake of your hubby to force on you. He has no right to do so even though he is your husband. But what matters now is he must truly understand how badly this has affected you. And whether you are willing to accept his apology and wanted to build the trust in between both of you again.

He must understand that it’s truly no joke doing such thing especially to someone who got ptsd from sexual abuse. Force will only sent you farther away from him and ripe the trust you have in him and it will only worsen your current condition with this additional constant emotion (fear) sitting in your mind.

You must make sure that he understands you and not you just assuming he knows. Because sometimes, we over estimate others in understanding our pain, fear and struggling, where in reality they don’t really know where their limits are and how bad even a little action or joke of theirs could harm or jeopardize a relationship. This will ensure and save you from any further unintentional hurt.

He must also understand that the damage he has done is something terrible and you will need a lot of assurance and time to be able to trust and be comfortable around him again. It’s not something, an apology can easily mend, especially to a shattered and frighten soul. His action has damaged the trust you have in him, especially when you have great expectation and hope to find love, protection and comfort in him as your chosen partner.

Also you need to help and guide him on how to win and build your trust again, what you are comfortable at and how to build that assurance in you again. It takes time, for your mind and body to be able to trust again. He should also know that, its not something you can change in days or weeks, the damaged done really shattered you badly. He needs to be very patient with this healing and it will take time and plenty of effort from both parties.