Well, I started to read the responses and blew them off. No respect for the clueless partner from what I saw so I skipped and am going back to my old ways, screw what all say but go by experience. Little info to go off of and and people jumping to conclusions. Does not mean you do not interpret as forcible or dismiss by any means. Your feelings are real and seems he gets that.

Think about it, honestly as TYPICAL woman, with the abuse that results in PTSD we can and do follow certain signals or sensations that make us feel it is force when it is in fact not. You know a guy is in nature a bit "aggressive"... meaning not a rapist but more dominant. You know that whole they weigh 100 lbs more, a foot taller... and we wonder why they are more dominant. Boys are boys. Why are women considered more demure? Because as a whole we are. We are more coy and hint in bed and guys are a bit blunt. Especially husbands who have been around a while.

But I see huge hopes as he backed off! Bravo! True love sowing. Give it time and a chance. And counseling. I had intimacy gone for a long time vanish, he learned I had flashbacks during such occasions. I did not even know what I experienced was. It was emotional and I shut down. But hell, with healing I have reached a point I do want to once a now and then maybe. He is so scared to touch me. I get annoyed as i wish he would do something as I cannot bring myself to do it, be "aggressive". At the same time some nights just him softly kissing and holding me makes me shut down still. Depends when it happens, it is hit and miss. Just his mustache and chest hair while he just pulls me in for a hug makes me go into thinking this is bad.

You need to really learn when it bad or just being a husband or a guy. He is showing respect backing off and tremendous love. Do not run from that. We want to with this and look for ways out. All that is out there is roulette. Give it time and counsel. You may have found a man who loves you and willing to hold back desire until you are better. But to be desired does not make them bad or to have desires.

Mine used to be very manly in the area and for a couple years now I can not get his attention without a banner so he knows it is OK because he loves me. Let yours love you and do not hold your own issues against him. Again going off what you gave.