I am new to this board, but not new to PTSD. My husband was in Viet Nam in 1966-1967, but, of course he's really never come back from there. We have been married 30 years. We have 4 children, all grown. I am having difficulty understanding why he is able to be so tender and compassionate with complete and near complete strangers and still so detached from his family. It hurts to see him interact with others in a seemingly effortless manner when his relations with myself and his children are strained. We know he loves us, but he sure has a weird way of showing it. I was raised in an abusive home and this hits all my buttons on so many levels. He is a good man and would never hurt us intentionally, but in many ways, even after 30 years, he remains a mystery. Anyway, that's my story. :crazy-eye