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Originally Posted by love2hate I know that infatuation with revenge is common here but is it ever therapeutic to actually get revenge? |
I would actually disagree with you, in that most people who come here are not seeking revenge, but more seeking answers. Revenge is an indicative term in which some confuse it with such terms as "justice" and the like. Because a man rapes a woman, does the woman want "revenge" or does the woman want "justice" for that mans actions? Justice is often the correct term, in that revenge is "eye for an eye" type thinking, ie. I want them to now be raped and see how they feel; which often leads to no self satisfaction for themselves at all, but instead more displeasure. Often all a person asks is for the correct "justice" to be served, ie. man rapes woman, man is prosecuted and sent to jail for their action; not let off through some technicality or legal loophole.
One is revenge, one is justice, distinct difference.
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Originally Posted by love2hate Eventually, I had had enough and starting about a week ago I tried my very best to incite her to commit suicide. I am not a fool and knew very well what I was doing and tried to be very shrewd and effective in my efforts. I also made attempts to disrupt her own personal relationships and work. |
This is revenge, thus making it
illegal. You are choosing to seek revenge believing it will make you feel better, when in fact you will often find it won't make things better at all for yourself, instead your mind will eventually catchup with you in the correct sense of the act, being you are attempting manslaughter or like act, being you are "intentionally" acting in a way for someone to die, though you are not actually commiting the act yourself, ie. shooting her. Basically, you are giving her the motive, which will see you behind bars, not her; and you would deserve to be behind bars for such an act. Revenge is not the key to helping yourself....
If you want revenge, then you do so at your own peril, none of which will you gather support from this forum; though if you want justice, then there are ways and means for you to do this yourself, and you know the ways and means, you just have to be willing to try, ie. seek legal advice. If the legal system finds her not guilty, then you have to still deal with it, if they find her guilty, you still have to deal with it. Either way, YOU have to come to terms with the pain at some point, then your actions.
Finding what your really angry about and dealing with that is often the key...
not seeking revenge.