Hi ECF and welcome

I understand where your GF is at. My second husband and I divorced and approximately 9 months later he passed away as the result of a drug overdose. He was an addict. I divorced him out of necessity. I had a hard time dating even while sperated and after the divorce. Hima nd I were still emotionally tied. His death brought many emotions. One being guilt. He had been trying to reconcile though I knew he wasn't clean and sober. He could be abusive in many ways. I know today he was bound to have PTSD also as I am more informed of PTSD and I already knew his childhood. It was much like my own. Til this day, I can see him still laying inthe casket. Your ex GF is also grieving a life she use to know and her daughter probably has features which are also reminders. Truth be known, she probably did love the man and the abuse tore them apart. She does need counseling of some sort even if its not PTSD and her daughter probably does too considering she had been with her father and he was suicidal.

I know its hard to let go. Ive had to learn how to let go and others have had to let go of me because I wasnt ready to begin a new relationship and new life. We have to be over th eold in order to begin in the new.