I was in rage and hate the first two years of my independance . I was in therapy thank goodness. But I obsessed on revenge.
But the thing is the obsessing made me ill and feeling guilty. It was an obstacle in my getting better. And it was one way the perpetrators had rented space in my brain to control me througth fear and anger without lifting a finger.
I did learn i did not have to forgive. But to do revenge or obsess on it would hurt no one but me and vindicate them as " SEE" we have a psycho on our hands " And they would get sympathy and support and protection from those who should have proscecuted the jerks back when I was a kid.

By my getting better and on my feet I guilted the parental units. And they have no claim on me. They may present their own fairy tale world of how things were and how it is now. But those who know are not fooled and the fear and isolation is no longer mine but theirs.

But the anger was part of my learning to heal.. Acting on it would have destroyed me and the perps would have won. .

This was my experience and may not be relevant at all.
Nora in Colorado