ECF, one of our significant factors that "we sufferers" think will help us, is to push everyone we care about as far away as possible. Why? I believe we think it will help us cope with what is happening to us, though we don't really understand it ourselves. It is very much a coping mechanism.

I tried this with my wife now, as it worked with my first wife, the problem is, is that my wife now didn't accept this crap, and she fought for me, and pushed me to realise that all she wanted to do was love and support me. So... I got help, and here I am today.

If you believe this has nothing more to do than what I explained just now, then most certainly do not accept it, and fight her to understand you just want to love her, help her, and support her, and push her to get professional help. This may work, this may not, but it certainly puts us sufferers in a different mindset to how we perceive spouses and those around us.

The things that go through our minds are quite unbelievable, and the largest though is generally that we don't want to drag anyone else down where we are headed, and even with support, we are still going down until we reach the bottom, to then work our way back up. PTSD does that too us, we have little control in the initial stages.

The issue you have, is that your apart by location, and phones are often not a sufferers best friend, because they become a distraction and annoyance to us, so we often turn them off or disregard them when they ring. You honestly sound like a great person, who is loving and careing for a person you can see wants help, needs help, but just doesn't know which direction to turn in order to get it.

See how you go and fight for what you love... it just might come out in your favour if she wakes up and see's the light to the reason you want to be with her, and understand you don't expect anything from her, you just want to love her and support her.