A vent... something that needs to come out IMHO....

And this just reinforces exactly what happened between Kerrie and I, where the emotional bullshit simply continues (the games she plays), and not only does she now attack me, but now nicolette, also now the forum members. This is an extract of information she sent to me in an email today:
Now this is Kerrie's current emotional state. We broke up and our marriage cease in January this year, yet I didn't even meet Nicolette until end of February at Logans birthday party. Funnily enough, we had never even chatted until end of February, as she had her life, we had our lives... then i had my life. Kerrie seems to think now that I cheated on her because I am still married to her, though seperated. WRONG... that law is not the case here in Australia, far far from it. You do not need to be divorced in order to be in another relationship here, simply you must be seperated and all is well. Nice try... another emotional attack and game in order to try and justify in her own mind another reason for our breakup other than we just failed one another, we just failed together as a marriage. Simple as that, yet she does not want any responsibility in the failure, instead she would rather tell herself that I cheated on her after we broke up... exactly how that is cheating once you seperate, but to her it is, and no doubt will be for some time.

These are emotional games... this crap is absolute BS in my mind. Grown adults cannot accept responsibility for their actions, so they play games. Its funny though, in that she mentions my threat to her about calling the police, which I did threaten her to call the police, no issue with that, and the only reason was because she remained in MY house, not her house, but my house without my permission after I had told her to leave. She dangled the kids in front of me once again... something like, "you wouldn't put your kids out on the street, would you?" Funnily enough, silly me once again, didn't call them and let her have her controlling way once again, as she did our entire marriage, thus the next morning she wanted the keys to her car as the transport was here to pick it up... the old beat up corolla I had here, as she TOOK the new car herself.... yet I simply wanted her set of keys to MY house in exchange, yet she didn't want to give me the keys, so i told her I wouldn't give her the car key, hence why she called the police on me, the police arrived, and kicked her out of the house, told her to pack her shit and get the hell out as she was illegally staying in the house without my permission and had no authority to be their as she was not financial with the property, only myself... exactly what I told her and threatened her to call the police in the first place, but she did it for me... this is what I laugh about. So she got removed from the house, I gave her the key to the car and the police made her go and hand my keys back to the agent. Chuckled once again... because her manipulative controlling behaviour backfired on her.

This is mind games, and this is the exact shit I refer in this thread that I believe is well and truly unacceptable. Now as to why I wouldn't give her my new address... like dur, do I really want to rub it in her face? No... I am not that much of an arsehole these days. Yes, I used to be years ago and most likely would have done stupid things like that, ie. been just as nasty and certainly lowered myself to the same level, but I did not and will not as I am a completely different person nowadays to what I was, yet Kerrie still has not moved on within herself to see for herself that my new relationship has nothing to do with our seperation, nor was it even a thought at the time of seperation.

I believe to Kerrie that my relationship will never be acceptable until such time as she has let go and moves on in another relationship herself... whilst she is miserable, she wants me to be so... go figure... like I didn't see that coming. That is a pretty standard game in relationship breakdowns from what I see and have experienced myself.

Kerrie thinks I hide things, yet those with access to the PTSD only section would now that I don't, and discussed this openly the entire time, bouncing things off others, getting feedback, looking for other solutions that I have not though... yet emotional games get played. Things would be much easier if children weren't involved, though she uses them like pawns, still trying to control me with them. I would have thought she would know better by now, but still obviously not.

Now to me, I would think that not everything should be mentioned about a relationship breakdown, as i hadn't mentioned here because IMHO it would have only discredited Kerrie more, yet she attacks me with this type of nonsense, attacks Nicolette now and she has nothing to do with anything apart from being my new girlfriend after Kerrie and I had seperated, and now the forum members... what next? Maybe she will attack the kids? Maybe Melbourne itself is at fault for our marriage breakdown? Why can't adults simply be honest and look within themselves before they go jumping to others, pointing fingers and looking for someone to blame? I know why... its easier to blame someone else than it is to blame yourself. Something to do with denial and looking inwards I believe? The exact things you must do in order to heal PTSD, hence why those who heal PTSD or trauma are generally much more intune with themselves, honest with themselves, than people generally are who have not suffered trauma.