No no Evie please my dear, one bloody self-righteous nun in the family is sufficient, thank you. Besides which fear of relationships is not a valid reason to join a religious order. Face your fears my girl, don't avoid them.

Anthony, you have my sympathies. Only been married once thank Christ. Kathy and myself went through similar difficulties during our trial separation. However. That's 30-odd years back and this old head is not what it used to be. Perhaps Kathy will recall a specific incident to share. Probably getting into hot water with this one, but females seem to have a knack for remembering past wrongs, even decades later! ;-)

Bottom line - Kathy and I were both of us young and immature, reckon in our early 20s. Both acted in ways we now regret. If I may be so bold, 35 is a bit old to still be carrying on in this fashion. Understand it is a difficult thing. Kerrie is hurting and angry, obvious that, but the expression of that hurt is self-defeating. About time to grow up in my opinion. Suppose some people never completely grow out of that behaviour. However. There are children to consider. Not a healthy atmosphere. Those precious little ones and their comfort should be top priority. Infuriates me when people use their youngsters as leverage. Very selfish, that.

Pleased to read you are not accepting any bullshit. That is the best way. Hope things settle down soon, for the sake of all concerned.

Jim.