I feel the same way veiled, but was told in many a psych hospital, not to worry so much about the other person, as far as them feeling what we are experiencing. I am quite protective of others feelings so I do not always give too much of the details, as the visuals will be stained in their memories.
When I am in a relationship and going through a flashback, I cannot always speak, all I am trying to do is to get the residual effects further away from me, so I can get to a calmer state. After, when I am away from it, I can say "well, this is what it pertained to, " and at the point I will or won't go into more specifics of it.
But I think midnite he needs to know what not to do, and in that frustration probably runs high. Tell him the best medicine is being held.
Mostly, I get stuck in the, "I just can't believe people could be that cruel and evil, to get off on the fears they created in others." thing. It just floors me.
I speak during mine, so I do it alone, there is always a pre-flashback warning I go through, so I get to a safe place alone, before it.
I did have a bad doctor, on a psych unit in florida, (he was a vet, mostly to help himself, cause he was horrible for others.) I just entered the hospital because I hadn't needed xanax and knew I was going to have a wicked flashback, well he wouldn't give me xanax, I told him well here it comes, don't let anyone in my room.
I was under a table and remember all the details, but I also knew I was talking, when my vision came back, there was a nurse, sitting hysterically crying on the end of my bed.
I said I am so sorry you had to go through that. I went and berated the doctor, and got an ama, against medical advice and left. Hell the flashback was over, all I needed was xanax to help not take the full dose of it, but I had too, it was over. So I just feel bad because that nurse now has those images in her brain. So, yes, they do effect others.